Someone recently added to our basket of negative responses we’ve received when we tell them we live on the road full-time. Perhaps other SUV campers & Van dwellers out there have heard it too?
Adding to comments such as, “This isn’t reality,” and “It’s only a temporary thing until tragedy strikes,” was this man’s comment. It went a little something like this: “Reality Check! When you disconnect, you lost contacts & networking. There is no planning for kids – kids change everything. Most relationships do not make it living like this.” [see full comment below]
My reply was this: I’ll have to respectfully disagree with every point here. Here’s why:
On Work & Networking:
Actually, we’ve been making great contacts along the road & in this day of communication I have no issues keeping contact with my connections. We meet people through the odd/seasonal jobs we do. We have more time to spend doing what we love rather than simply working for money. With this time, we’ve met outstanding people while volunteering. We have more time to read, learn, & explore – all serving as great educational experiences. There are plenty of folks out there who appreciate our experiences as mind-strengthening and would hire us in a heartbeat if needed. I don’t see how living this way impedes this process at all? If anything, we have better more authentic connections now. And if you’re networking just for the “job and money” side of it, count me out. Sounds fake. I want an authentic life with authentic people.
No, we don’t want to have kids. Mostly because there are many problems in the world that we do not want to subject them to. Many of these problems were induced by previous generations and have yet to be properly addressed for our children’s’ futures. People just keep saying “that’s just the way it is” and continue to do the same things they’ve always done rather than making a change. We’re choosing to make a change. Hopefully, this kind of mindset benefits the children of tomorrow even if that’s not ours.
However, we have already discussed that if we did have kids we would live on the road with them (no transition necessary). Because this would be best for them. People need nature more than anything. People need nature because that is where our food and water comes from, and lessons of life, and a perspective of interconnectedness which makes us appreciate one another (not just other humans, everything on the planet we depend on). Our modern day society is NOT reality. Natives lived with less than even we have and kept things in balance. I think we all need to take some serious lessons from their way of living in sync with the planet. Our kiddos would be happy and intelligent. We would have more time as parents to teach them rather than being away at some job just to make money to buy stuff we don’t need (oh yea, while networking with people we don’t actually like). They could still get plenty of social interaction in our travels so that’s not a problem. They would learn more about respect and the planet than about money and fashion like most kids get from so-called “reality.”
The biggest reality check? This way of life, this 9-5, this “economy” is not economic at all. It’s wasteful and it will catch up to humans. The negative externalities felt by the planet due to the fact that everyone just keeps chugging along on the same path, same life, same bloating cities, increasing water quality and quantity issues, climate, overpopulation, loss of species, degraded soil, lower air quality…this is all the result of “reality”. Maybe we all need to work on creating a new reality rather than accepting this one?
Also, regarding being together for long term: well, in a traditional lifestyle where people work full time, they spend way less time together. We, on the other hand spend almost all our time together.
We’ve been together for 3.5 years now.
Quick math on that: many couples get maybe 4 hours after work together per day. Times 5 days a week is 20 hours. It’s unlikely they spend the whole weekend together. It’s even more unlikely that this time spent on the weekend is personal and not something either work related or surrounded by friend groups or drinking which all serve as a buffer. We, on the other hand, spend nearly all our time together, mostly just us, not drinking – interpersonal time. Okay, but let’s give the benefit of the full weekend to them anyway. So 24 x 2 = 48 hours. The total? 68 hours per week.
52 week’s per year x 68 hrs = 3536 hrs per year., roughly.
Now, for us. 24 hrs a day x 7 days week = 8736 hrs., roughly.
Let’s compare. It’s about 2.5 times as much time spent (assuming its actual quality time). So, at approx. 3.5 years together, we’ve spent about the same amount of time together as a “traditional” working couple together for almost 9 years. So, to meet your 10 year mark, next year we’ll make a video about it. 😉
And finally, we are authentic genuine people. There’s no reason to conclude we wouldn’t continue to love each other into the future. Being that we don’t live in traditional living, our relationships not buffered by social fads, fake friends, needs for alcohol consumption, working strains, money issues, and so on. We’re able to present our most true and best versions of ourselves to one another. And to the world.
Our belief: Do what you authentically love & the world and opportunities will unfold in front of you like never before.
Keep a look out for future videos on these topics in more detail. We’re already working on some to dive into work, relationships, and kids on the road. Coming soon!